How to Get Through Valentine's Day Single or Not

Since February 14th is right around the corner (although if you've happened upon this post at any other point in the year my message is just as important), today I want to remind you that you can be your own damn Valentine.

I really feel like a day that is centered around honoring and celebrating love can end up feeling like an unwelcomed reminder of what might be missing in your life and perpetuate the cycle of shame and disappointment.

What if this year you reclaim Valentine's day for yourself?

What if you flip the script and instead of it being a day that highlights the things you may or may not feel are present or lacking in your relationships, you allow yourself to pour into YOU instead.

Treat yourself.

And I'm not just saying this to be cheesy, because as a relationship coach this is something I preach all year long.

Because regardless of the relationship dynamic, the way you treat yourself is one of the most influential and impactful things in your relationships with others.

Especially your romantic relationships.

The way you treat yourself sets the standards for others.

So let's think about that, how do you treat yourself?

How do you show yourself love?

I want to be clear here, self-love, just like self-care, is absolutely not just bubble baths and face masks. 

Those things can be great of course, but often times expressing self-love may look like actually doing the hard things for yourself.

It looks like showing up for you even when its challenging and might create discomfort.

It's having the hard conversations and setting the boundaries that might feel frustrating or inconvenient to yourself or others.

It's prioritizing your own needs even when it feels like it's going against what you've been conditioned to think of as "selfish"

Treating yourself the way you want/expect to be treated can also look like doing the things you want your partner to do for you, for yourself.

And I mean this for you whether you feel you are in a supportive and nurturing relationship or not.

Take yourself on that date to the restaurant you've been dying to try🍝

Buy yourself the damn flowers 💐

Take yourself on a weekend getaway ✈️🚗 

Write yourself a love letter 📝💞 

It can be easy to forget that we have a relationship with ourselves too, and you deserve for this relationship to be nurtured and prioritized just like any other.

So here's a little challenge for ya...

This week, identify at least one thing you can do to offer yourself the love you give to others.

If you're feeling lost around where to even start or are longing for some more specific direction, click here to schedule a complimentary gift session and we can explore what specifically is coming up for you so that you can get on the road to feeling more safe and secure in your relationship with yourself and others!

With love! ❤️

xoxo,

Sammy