Here is the Single Most Powerful Way to Figure Out What the F*ck You Want
In the hustle and bustle of daily life, many of us find ourselves grappling with a seemingly elusive question:
“What do I really want?”
Which, let’s be honest, can be a really loaded question and actually hard af to accurately answer.
Especially when you’re so focused on making sure everyone else is happy.
If you resonate with this, pondering this inquiry likely brings about feelings of stuckness, self-doubt, and probably even a not-so-healthy dose of shame.
Is there even room to consider what YOU want when it has been your role to make sure other people are getting what they want all the time?
The answer here is yes.
But I bet at some point in your life you’ve been taught that you should put other people’s needs before your own.
You’ve been told so many time that it’s “selfish” and “self-centered” to prioritize your own needs that at this point you’re not even sure how to identify and connect with what your own needs even are, let alone what it is that you want.
And then, at the very same time, you’re told that you should just “make up your mind” and “get your shit together”
I mean, when you reflect on it, it is truly a fucked up narrative that we’ve been told.
So let’s rewind and spend some time rewriting this self-limiting story….
First things first,
Let’s just be clear that the single most powerful way to figure out what you want is to actually get to know who YOU are.
I know, I know,duh. But like really, when was the last time you actually sat down to get to know yourself?
We’re always talking about ways to get to know each other (which of course is important), but what about the process of being attentive to yourself.
When have you taken a moment to really really spend the time to turn inward and reconnect with what makes you tick?
So many of us are operating autopilot on the hamster wheel of life, looking at things through the lens of prioritizing other people’s needs, emotions, desires, and expectations above our own.
Whether it's in your career, relationships, or personal pursuits, understanding your deepest desires is essential for leading a fulfilling life and creating meaningful, lasting, and nurturing relationships. The single most powerful way to unravel this mystery lies in the profound journey of getting to know who the fuck you are.
Self-discovery is not simply a one-time event or singular place to land, it is a continuous process of understanding oneself at a deeper level. It involves peeling back the layers of societal expectations, external influences, and preconceived notions to reveal the authentic core of who you are.
This process is crucial in not only getting your needs met, but also being able to identify what they even are to begin with, because it allows you to connect with your true desires, preferences, and values.
In the quest to figure out what you really want, self-discovery is the compass that guides you through. By embracing your passions, understanding your values, increasing your self-awareness, and cultivating self-acceptance, you unlock the door to a life that authentically aligns with your desires.
Remember, the journey of self-discovery is ongoing, and as you evolve, so too will your understanding of what you truly want.
Embrace the process, celebrate your uniqueness, and let self-discovery be the beacon that illuminates the path to a more fulfilling and satisfying life.
You are worthy of putting your needs and desires first. <3
If you struggle with this and are reading this like “yeah this sounds nice but I don’t even know where to begin” I’ve got just the thing for ya!
